Fresh new start

Sooooo
I've been living in California the past 8 months and I just moved home about a month ago because I decided it was time to stop nannying, and use my degree while I can. Time to grow up...yaknowwhatimean?

I'm a social worker at a drug and alcohol rehab center for women. Its really stressful..but also really rewarding. I'm exhausted everyday and cry a lot.. haha. But once I get used to it, things will be better! :)

Most of the women are prisoners and are court ordered for treatment. Some are homeless. Some are felons who were turned in by their family.
I see a lot of craaaaaaaaazy stuff everyday.... And everyday I realize that stupid decisions can change the course of your life forever. Most of these women are trying to get their children back from state custody, and its heartbreaking. The thing is... is that these are good, normal, everyday women who have just made bad choices...who have given up their free agency to a SUBSTANCE. A THING!

I'm seeing a lot of things in a different light lately.
And I've seen women absolutely change the course of their lives.
I've learned that anything is possible if you make up your mind to do it.
If you  make up your mind that heroin and meth and cocaine make you happy? youll keep using until it kills you.
If you make up your mind that your babies that are waiting for you to get clean are the most important thing? You can stay clean.

DONT DO DRUGZ PEOPLE.


I'm living in Kaysville and commuting to work, which blows. I need to get my own place in slc soon. I'm pretty lonely...because work is hard and tiring annnnnnd people have lives and are busy. I come home everyday, take a bath, and go to bed. Sometimes I second guess moving home. and then I get mad at myself and wonder what would have happened had I stayed in California.
But that's just the loneliness talking I think. I hope.

I'm still single.
23...single..career...somewhere I never thought i'd be.
boys aren't really interested in dating me. friends? yes. dating? no. they 'aren't ready to get married...or are in love with someone else...or are too busy.'
Its prettyyyyyyyy frustrating.
 Lonely sometimes..beause I ache to have a family of my own...but i'm doing okay.
Things will be okay if I do my part.


life can never be planned for. never never ever never.

I guess i've been busy

Hm...my life...I've been keeping busy I guess...

...I've just been doing the normal Mormon-girl equivalent of summer sales... BEING A NANNY. I've been graduated for a year and still haven't started a career. WOOP WOOP. lolz. but seriously, being a nanny is just like being a fake mom..and I love it.

I'm not dating anyone. I'm afraid of dating because I fall super fast and the idiots I fall for are REALLY bad at catching me. Like... Hellen-Keller-in-the-outfield-on-a-rainy-day-bad-at-catching-me.

I HEARD....that some girl called the cops on her crazy ex 6 months ago and she hasn't heard from him since. She also heard through the grapevine that he is indeed engaged again...this time, to a girl he met on facebook. (5th times the charm I hear!)  BAZZINGA!!! (but seriously, rounds of applause and a chorus of angels singing 'hallelujah')

I cried at one of my best friend's weddings the other day.  It really was the craziest thing..cuz it wasn't when she came out of the temple.. not when she hugged me.. none of that. It was when her husband led her out onto the dance floor and they had their first dance together. She was mouthing the words to him while they looked at each other, and they both were absolutely beaming with pure JOY. My eyes literally could not stop tearing up. I was holding a friends baby and had to look down at the babes adorable chubby face to blink away the tears before my friends came back to the table. I just... cannot fathom loving someone so much, that I will want to spend not only my life with them, but my forever with them as well. And I especially can't imagine THEM wanting that with ME. I can't imagine any of it!! Isn't that silly?

I'm still a doula but only really do births for my friends...I love being a part of something so amazing...and I can't wait for the day I get to be a mom. Seeing all my friends become mothers has given me a lot to look forward to...and seeing all my friends become mothers has also definitely made my faith grow about Heavenly Fathers timeline for me. It has been a humbling experience to say the least. But man...how much joy does it bring me to see my friends bring their very own brand new babes into the world? A ZILLION JOYS ON THE JOY SCALE!!

Oh and when I'm bored? Me and my little sister think we are hilarious so we make vines and lol our butts off in the middle of the night. (shout out to you, chelleybean)


I'm just busy being 23 and freaking out about not knowing where my life is going......and then realizing every other day that I'll probably never know where its going till I get there. I always thought I'd be in a completely different place in my life than where I'm actually at right now. I'm as far away from that place than I could ever be! But still hoping and working towards getting there. We'll see. Not planning on having my plans work out...because plans never do seem to work out, do they?

HELLO WORLD I'M BAAAAACK

OH HAI. Am I on your newsfeed again?

well la-dee-da.
.........

oh ps my sister just informed me that in two hours no one will be reading this because of googles idiotic choice to ex-communicate all followers from all blogs everywhere...OF COURSE ITS THE DAY I COME BACK TO BLOGGING......so maybe none of you will read this. but if you do....

ummmm. add me on bloglovin'?

 

LOL OVER-AND-OUT

the gay stuff.

i know everyone is posting their opinion about gay rights and what not...and i am too. hey-o. but mostly this is for me, to figure out how i feel about the whole thing. stop reading now if you don't wanna hear confused jabber of a 23 year old on things i don't understand.

first of all, im a mormon with a strong testimony of the gospel and believe in marriage between a man and a woman. it is sacred and God designed it that way so we could take part in the creation of babes so they could come to the earth to experience their test. We are given the opportunity to CREATE..and that is ONLY possible through a man and a woman. a weewee and a hooha. IM SORRY BUT ITS TRUE. joking aside, it is a divine power given to us. a gay couple cannot create babes. yes they can adopt...(which i also feel strongly about because i was a hospital social worker and saw a lot of couples neglect and abuse their babies..and i think a gay couple who loves and cares for their child is OBVIOUSLY better than a straight couple abusing their kids. thats obvious...to me at least.)

i also have gay friends and accquaintances. i never really did until a few years ago..and when i started to love them- i started to understand on a deeper level how unfair it is that people treat them the way they do.. If anyone EVER crossed any one of my friends who are homosexual, i'd be livid. if they discriminated against them or did anything to harm them...it would hurt me as well, just like anyone else hurting a friend who is different would affect me and i'd wanna throat punch them. its not fair for one person to treat another person wrongly, no matter what. bullying and discrimination is wrong.

i believe that people of a different sexual orientation should be allowed many of the things that are being denied to them right now. joint healthcare...hospital visits to see their partner...being able to be a part of the estate in their partners will...etc. i don't think those things should be denied.

and then we get to marriage. because i support rights of these HUMANS-just like us- doesn't mean i support the marriage part. its tough..because if i supported the marriage part..the right to legally be bound to your partner...i personally feel that would be blatantly going against my belief in the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman. i dont think denying legal marriage to a same sex couple is an awful thing.....they can still be together. but i can understand how they feel discriminated against. but...if i supported gay marriage, i would be supporting the lifestyle that is counseled to stay away from by the church i love. it KINDA would be like me supporting a woman who is trying to make it legal in our church for girls to have the priesthood.
no. don't get me started on that because that IS an issue and it makes me crazy.
anyway, if i supported gay marriage, it would be disrespectful to Heavenly Father....because what he says...goes. no questions asked. in my mind, that is the final answer.

my belief of not letting gay people marry each other isnt a strong belief of taking away rights from someone. its a strong belief of heavenly fathers counsel about marriage between a man and a woman.

i may get ridiculed for these statements...thats okay. thats the thing. I have been hesitant to voice my feelings on this, because no matter what i say, someone isnt going to like it. its going to be wrong in someones eyes. isnt it hard to say how you feel, without possibly offending someone or coming off the wrong way?
its hard. FRICK.
i'm probs going to offend at least one person and the worth of my character may be tarnished because I feel like the government shouldn't change what our forefathers fought for...they were men of God. they wanted people to be treated equally...but were men of God and believed in the institution of marriage between a man and a woman.

I am not saying gay individuals cannot be 'men of god' or unspiritual or anything like that. no way jose! i believe being gay is both nature/nurture. mostly nature, and nurturing those feelings moves their lifestyle choices along.  


i feel really strongly about gay mormons....we believe it is their trial in this life, and they are encouraged to keep coming to church, fight those urges, and stay celibate...because THIS is their trial. this is their test. how hard would that be? it would be extremely difficult. it makes me ache to know that they may feel trapped and lonely and won't be able to have the companionship that they TRULY desire. its hard for me. i dont think anyone should be lonely and not feel love and companionship and that makes me wanna CRYYYYYYY. thats a lot of years facing one trial...and feeling alone. and being counseled to not act on your desires from your church leaders you love. but people follow that counsel. and they get through it, and live happy lives.

Heavenly Father knows best. i dont understand why people would argue with that. many of my mormon friends support gay marriage..and i don't really know why, other than the conviction of not taking away rights from others. for me, i couldn't be okay with that because the church is firm and clear about what we believe. but i dont judge my mormon friends for believing that. thats their belief. everyone is entitled to that.


all i know, is everyone should RESPECT and love each other, no matter what their sexual orientation is. Homosexual people should not be ridiculed, hurt, bullied, etc because guess what.. you dont know what its like. you don't know how it feels. and neither do i.

what do i know? im a straight mormon girl with my own views and opinions..and i stand by my beliefs.
so..yes im traditional. but that doesnt mean i'm an awful person for believing that only a man and a woman should be married...because thats the whole point of life. so many of us traditional people are being ridiculed. it sucks.

i dont wanna open a can of worms. so pleeeeeeease dont comment a debate. these are just my thoughts.

man+woman+children=family.

it doesn't make sense to me any other way.

picture overload!

smiling at my nephew all day, holding hands and watching grey's anatomy, meeting up with friends in sf (no, that boy is not my boyfriend)....winning tickets to wicked, hiking to lookouts of the golden gate, and enjoying the coast.

:)

 

Bay Area livin!

okay so.... i dont have a laptop. because i am poor. so this is why i never blog. but i CAN mooch off my sisters lappy late at night...so i'm gonna try to blog more often. its also nice because i can finally actually say where i am and what im doing without being scared i'm gonna be confronted out of the blue by a crazy person.

SOOOOO: my life.....
im in danville watching my adorbs nephew..and he is the best. everyday i love him more and more. the sun here is amazing...it boosts my mood like you wouldnt believe. layin by the pool in january is like... jigga whaaaat! also, there are a lot of rich people here. when i go on walks, i see everyone driving like.. mercedes and jaguires and im like..heyyy i drive an oshkosh stroller whadduppppp

i went to dinner with a friend on friday..and it was so nice to have a social life again! he is adorable. and hilarious. and afterwards we went to a YSA regional activity and lolled our butts off. i think i'm gonna do that more often.

on saturday i explored San Fransisco with beana and spencer...it was unreal. blue skies, 65 degrees...it was an instant dose of happy.

our day consisted of:

-driving with the windows down on the bay bridge looking at allll the sailboats in the bay
-going to treasure island and seeing the whole city
-getting some clam chowder in bread bowls at the wharf... (saw live crabs at the resturant and it freaked me right out)
-went to go see the disgusting barking seals soaking up the rays on pier 39
-drove through china town during chinese new year!
-saw all the adorbs shops in little italy
-went to ocean beach and sat on the dunes and listened to the waves. heaven.
-hiked up a little trail at mile rock beach to the beautiful look out spots
-went to union square and went in Saks 5th avenue for the first time ever..never felt so poor in my life.... (found a dress on sale for 3500 dollars. kewl.)
-ate at an authentic viatnamese place in the city and had Pho for the first time. (pronnounced fuh, so you can imagine how much fun i had saying it to the waitress)
-walked around the little shops at night..it reminded me so much of new york
-saw sooo many streetside performers (and smelled a lot of weed)
-made our way over to girhidelli square at night for dessert. it was amazing


pictures to come.


over and out, readers.

23

it was my birfday a few days ago.

i went to dinner wif some friends and got awesome prezzzents. i even got lots of presents from me to me...because i can. such as... a ring..and a new outfit..and a zillion phone cases...and crap. i thanked myself too.

im grateful for my family and friends who care about me...being back in utah for a few weeks has been such a blessing!

im buying a car this week and feeling super awesome about it.

i got rejected from grad school aaaaand now idk what im doing with my life. i hope something good is around the corner. PLEASE bless something good is around the corner for me.

i also hate blind dates.

bye.

ROFL TIMES 100

my sister introduced me to a site called whatshouldwecallme.tumblr.com

i died. i hope you rofl as hard as i did:

Talking to my mom on the phone

What I feel like doing most days

When I make fun New Years Eve plans

When I’m watching a movie & one of the characters dies

If it’s a person:

If it’s an animal:

When my doorbell rings and I wasn’t expecting anybody

Sitting down to take an exam

My classmates:

Me:

When someone hot walks into the room

Spotting my crush

When I’m sober:

When I’m not:

When I run into my ex

In front of him:
As soon as he’s out of sight:

When I hear good gossip

How I feel about grades

During the semester:

When I see that they’re posted online:

When I get out of work at 6pm and it’s pitch black

When I haven’t heard from my ex and then he texts me out of nowhere

When I park illegally and don’t get a ticket

...i could go on for days, but its 3:30 in the morning.
i have a feeling i will be posting these regularly.
goodnight world.